Conversations with Toi

Happy Mother's Day to all of the moms. Its a hard job with no days off but when you are doing it right it is the most rewarding. For all of those who do not have their mom or have a strained relationship with their mom I am sending love your way .......................... With it being Mother's Day I wanted to make sure that I had the mother of all mothers on and included my mom. We talk about going no contact, the frustration of not seeing your mom from her perspective, the good. bad, and indifferent when it comes to motherhood and so much more. ............................ My mother was born in Youngstown Ohio. She is a wife, mother, daughter, and sister. She has always been involved in the arts with dreams of being a renowned dancer. She turned in her dancing shoes shortly after my twin and I was born. Through her various life lessons she has overcome homelessness, drug addiction, and more. Rhonda is also starting her new online encouragement and motivation called The Pit Stop. .......................... We talk about her being a single mom, her life as a mom to the twins aka me and my sister and her life with my brother. As a single mother at one point one recurring theme with self esteem and more kept creeking up ........................ It's also my birthday today. You can gift me with a free review on wherever you are listening to this episode on ......................... This week is also Children's Mental Health and it's important to support the young folks in your life. ....................... Also follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog

Sometimes in life we believe in order to inspire you have to have it all together. That is not the case. Today's guest is Ella Shae. ............................. Mental health advocate Ella Shae’s book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken, offers her first-hand experience on the importance of self-care and why taking time for yourself ultimately makes you a better partner, parent, companion, and friend. Her story begins with a traumatic car accident as a child that later manifested in an eating disorder. It provides relatable moments, encouraging readers to use their own voice to advocate for themselves. ........................ Ella's journey with mental health awareness began at an early age of 4 years old after a car accident that could have killed her, but instead left her with lasting scars. As the years progressed in her journey, so did the traumas and challenges with her mental health. It wasn’t until a compilation of many mental health struggles presented themselves as an eating disorder, that she finally received the proper treatment to work through 35 years of trauma. After years of therapy, Ella was finally able to reopen her old wounds that had been haunting her. She learned that trauma does not have to make you a victim. In fact, it was her grief that helped her to grow into the best version of herself. ...................... Get the Book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken on Amazon If you purchase it from her website, she will sign your copy. Follow Ella on Instagram and LinkedIn ........................ Follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog, Toitime

What is the call to action for Black Maternal Health week? To save our black moms. All moms deserve to deliver safely, to be heard during postpartum care and more. But we know that there is a disparity. According to the CDC: Black women are three times more likely to die from a pregnancy-related cause than White women. Multiple factors contribute to these disparities, such as variation in quality healthcare, underlying chronic conditions, structural racism, and implicit bias. ............................... We can do our part by believing and supporting black moms. Here is my story. Resources: Resources for Black Maternal Health Week: Black Mamas Matter AllianceCenters for Disease Control and PreventionProclamation from White HouseHelp with Black Maternal Health: National Birth Equality CollaborativeNational Black Doulas AssociationMarch of DimesFollow me on socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog

Mental health doesn't stop at the prayer line. It is important to be faith based in life but when warranted get the help you need from a professional. If you ever grew up under a faith based lifestyle many times you hear that you have to pray, give it to God,and move on. ........................... Moving on when your mind isn't allowing you to is hard. Moving on when you need to see a therapist or more need to take medication for your needs is not feasible nor can it be sustainable-let's be about both This solar eclipse has brought out manic depressive behavior and other things that honestly was already there. We use these occurrences to excuse behavior and that simply has to stop ........................ On this episode we cover what has happened this week from Oj Simpson's death to the Solar Eclipse. In this episode there is talk about religion and the role mental health plays or the lack thereof. ................. Other resources: Therapy and the church Therapy .............................. Follow me on the blog as well as all socials as Toitimeblog

On this episode we talk about grace and the challenge to give grace in the same way that we seek it from others. I learned a lesson in therapy this week that grace isn't always once and done. You have to remind yourself often. .......................... I talk about therapy, parenting, doing new things that are uncomfortable for you especially in your mental health healing journey. All things are meant to inspire you ................... We also have Joi Carter who you may know from Ready to Love and on Own's Love & Marriage DC. She is coming to Philadelphia with her music on April 12th at City Winery. City Winery is known to bring one of a kind artists and shows for an intimate experience. Joi is coming to bring you the goods and has a few guests coming with her you do not want to miss. Tickets to the show is available now. Don't miss out. Follow Joi on Instagram .................... I hope your week is great and that you do all of the things that make you happy and content on your wellness journey. ................................ Follow my journey on the blog as well as on socials as Toitimeblog

When you are living in your mental health often times you second guess yourself on all levels. After months and years of going through it many times you look for validation from others. Listen, no...We must find ways to validate ourselves. Learning to tell your story without waiting for those to tell it for you. Owning your power is key. .......................... On the podcast we talk briefly about Diddy but more on being embarrassed about the way your mental health has come forth. For instance having folks know how bad it can be for you and being around them. Your mental health journey is your own. ......................... Also some Easter memories for the ages. I hope that all kids grown and all get the Easter basket Topics: .......................... Want to try Circles, It's like group therapy on the go. Use code TOITIMEBLOG to save. For Goggle Play and for those on Apple ............................... Blog support: Easter and No Contact Easter Ready-shopping and dining and more Changing Therapist Follow me on all social media as Toitimeblog

No one I know wants to us their life to save others if there life has to be on the line. However we honor the life of Jessica Pettway by using it to help us save the countless of other women who need second opinions and more. .................................... Trigger warning: Cervical Cancer, death, misdiagnosis, and more We talk about the death of Jessica Pettway as it pertains to the mishandling of her case. She leaves behind her husband and two daughters. 9 months since her diagnosis we know that the disparity in the medical field especially for women of color. ........................... Dr. Jessica Shepherd, OBGYN, Menopause Expert, Media Health Expert, Founder @modernmeno CEO @sanctummedwellness speaks up about the tragedy of Jessica Pettway life and things we can do to take care of ourselves. ....................... There is medical disparity for women of color in all aspects of health. Even I dealt with it when I was in the ICU for internal bleeding following the birth of my final daughter and child. ..................... Make sure you click on every link as they provide so much resources. If you are in the Philadelphia/Delaware county please consider coming to the screening of Aftershock on April 13, 2024 as the discussion on Black maternal health is done with resources, movie screening, conversation, and more ............................. Follow me on the blog and on all socials as Toitimeblog

I wonder if men knew that bragging about how strong your significant other was by staying in a relationship with someone is NOT a flex. Every relationship has their ups and downs. However, if you saw that by stepping over my boundaries multiple times and being okay with that is crazy work. .......................... How do we justify bad behavior time and time again? Men and some women, please understand that the mental health breakdowns that occur when you are betrayed can last forever ..................... Follow the blog and on socials Toitimeblog

What does commitment have to do with the Cirque du Soleil Corteo? Everything as we have acrobat Joris Kondija share his reasons for starting with gymnastics and how staying the course led him to the brand of Cirque du Soleil. ................................. We have to stay committed to something in this world that seems to want to encourage failing. So here's to you taking this conversation and sticking to your personal commitments in life. In addition we cover: If you will be in the Allentown area March 28-31st, get tickets now. If you will be in Philadelphia come May 30-June 2nd, get tickets now ................................ Follow Cirque du Soleil online, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Roblox, and Twitter ......................... Follow me on Social media as Toitimeblog and on the blog ........................... Here are some blogs on travel, solo travel, and spring.

Is anyone else looking forward to shedding this seasonal depression and step into a Spring awakening? From travel since its National Plan a solo trip day to letting go of the things that holds us back I get into all of that this episode. ...................................... Are we giving participation awards to parents and specifically dads? Lil Scrappy had a lot to say this week on why people don't mention the parenting he does as the mother of his kids leaves to do the things that she needs to do .................................. In addition is $30 to little food to send to someone's Cash App for lunch? A woman this week says it's not enough.. What say you? I say I am enjoying two lunches at Chipotle or one lunch and a next day breakfast too ....................................... Follow me on socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog itself.

Have you ever questioned your past choices in life? We all make mistakes so this isn't about perfectionist. In life, there will be times when you realize later on aka your future self finally understands the past was building the good for your future. On this episode: I also cover the 50 part plus Rissa Tissa, Wendy Williams, and leave you with some encouragement that I hope on your darkest day illuminates your path. If you are looking for the viral Rissa Tissa story its on TikTok Follow me on the blog and on all socials as Toitimeblog

Comedian Mo'Nique and her son, Shalon have been creating a stir this week. Since Mo'Nique's rise it's been no secret that Mo'Nique doesn't have a desire to be a wife or parent. Fast forward to Mo'Nique's appearance on Clip Shay Shay where sh talk about her lack of parenting with her son. ................................................... Its easy to also note that Mo'nique has 2 other sons. Either way the exchange leads to what is no contact, and apologies This episode: You can find me on the blog and on social media as Toitimeblog Toxic Mothers blogpost

No matter what field you are in there's always room for more. I dislike when I hear people use tactics to be the mean girl/women and disinclude others. Often it's from their own insecurity but still its unnecessary in every way. ........................................... We have this week Elle of Siponwhat as we talk about her moving into the Content Creator space, tips she's learned, forging her own ways, and friendships along the way. Tune in as we talk about that and aspects of being who you are online and off. In addition always talk about mental health and self care. ............................................ Follow Elle on Siponwhat on Instagram and TikTok ........................................ Other topics discussed are: Grammys Mental health and being overwhelmed Valentine's Day and letting folks deal with the day in the way that feels best to them. .............................................. Follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog and on the actual blog

Unfortunately in content creation or blogging there is always room for clapbacks. We have Camille Mola of Positive Publicity as our guest as we talk all things writing, pop culture, and more. She shares how she got into the joy of writing. Whatever your joys are one thing is for your gift will make room. .................................................................................................... Camille is not only an amazing blogger, writer, but she has experience with PR and can sing her behind off. Oh and if that isn't enough she went to one of the most amazing schools, Penn State-We are! ......................................................................................................... Follow Camille on her blog; Positive Publicity, Instagram, TikTok, Pinterest and Facebook .......................................................................................... Follow me on the blog and on socials as Toitimeblog In honor of my husband's birthday listen to the episode, Storr Love

I love my Content Creator friends. So I will be bringing them on for a few weeks as we talk about different things in the industry. This is definitely something to tune in if you want to start something new (whatever your new is) but you are hesitant about what to do first. We have on today's episode is Amanda of Phillyfoodandbarrs and we talk about content creation and wanting to be on the scene and more. ................................... This episode is dedicated to my friend, Charisse McGill a jewel who's life and joy will radiate the community for years to come. ......................................... Not a Content Creator and don't have a desire to be that's okay you will get lessons on pursuing your dreams, exercising your NO Muscles, learning to bet on you, and how to continue when you want to quit and that can be applied in all fields and walks of life ................................. Looking to be a Content Creator? Think you can do it better than the folks in the game? Come on in the room because the cadence, tenacity, tools, and dare I say NO Muscles that you will week is not to be played with. ......................................... Looking for some tools in the game? Use my Amazon link to catch a few things (I get paid a commission) .................................. You can find Amanda on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok Follow the blog always and on socials as Toitimeblog

Goals and The Temptations? Yes on this last episode of the season and year I talk to E. Clayton Cornelious about his role as Paul Williams on the Broadway show of Ain't Too Proud coming to the Kimmel Cultural Campus January 3-21st. Tickets are now available. ........................................................................................................................................... E. CLAYTON CORNELIOUS (Paul Williams) is a Grammy winning Broadway/Tv veteran actor of 25 years. He’s worked on the West End of London, has done 9 1/2 Broadway shows, and this marks his 10th Broadway national tour. On top of acting, he is now a 5-year Broadway Investor/Producer. He made his Broadway producing debut in 2021 and was recently nominated for his 1st Tony Award in 2023 as co-producer. He is a graduate of PPU and is currently getting his 2nd degree in Business Management at EGCC. He is grateful to friends, family and God. Instagram: @Eclaycorn. Website: Eclaycorn.com. ................................................................................................................................................. Goals are meant to have a plan with them. Resolutions and goals aren't simply a wish list that you write down and hope for the best. Make a list and a plan to go along with it that will assist you in making 2024 successful. Remember to sprinkle in some grace in your goals setting. We tend to be on the go to making things happen without adding some pauses into our lives. ........................................................................................................................................... Follow me on the Blog and on socials as Toitimeblog New Year Blogs to add to your world: Getting Organized into the New Year Keep A Few Things into the New Year Stick to your New Year Goals/Resolutions

Christmas is a wonderful holiday. Everyone is getting gifts and you may be thinking of what you don't have, missing those who aren't here, and so much more. While everyone is wrapped in joy you may be seriously in a place of despair. It may be a silent issue as you feel like saying that would damper others so you smile in rooms you don't want to be in. .......................... With that being said, here are some of the ways I use to help me: In the podcast I talk about the ways I use things to help me. How to manage my feelings and levels of anxiety during high stress moments is key. Changing the tone in how I talk to my family and friends helps diffuse things too regardless if I 'shouldn't" have to do all of that. ........................... Wishing you a great season. Also later on the blog today I list 5 journal prompts, 5 podcasts to listen to, and 5 more tactics to use during the holiday season. ....................... Follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog

Oh how transformative gospel music can be. However when you are queer the church institution is one of the most isolating. Trying to water who you are out of fear of not being accepted is one thing but straying away from the faith seems to be the solution until Jess performed in the Color Purple Broadway show and it brought her back to it all. ....................... Tune in as we listen to Jessica Johnson as we talk about how the power of gospel music is so transformative. In addition catch Jess as she and the community in Norristown shines the light on the weekend of December 15-17th at Theatre Horizon. There are several performances to come out and hear the joy of the season in music. ............................................ Tickets to the show are available here: https://theatrehorizon.org/holiday-concert-2023/ .......................... I also talk about taking care of you during this holiday season, the rules of Christmas, and an adoration to not overspend and stay grounded this holiday season. Also for those who are grieving during this time or having a hard time you aren't alone and I talk about that too by also giving honor to my Great Grandparents: Mr. and Mrs. Sims who I miss dearly. I dedicate this episode to you both. .......................... Follow me on the blog as well as on socials as Toitimeblog

If you ever had an old school momma or aunt or whomever in your life tell you about how back then used to be and the changes that we see now, this is your episode. We respect and love what back then taught us. We love the richness of the history but right now we also have to add in skills set to live that helps us be better people. ...................................... With Mental Health often times people are scared to try the things that could help them because someone in their life with no knowledge on if that new tactic will work is discouraging them from getting the help they need. This isn't fair. Not going to therapy because you have been conditioned to keep things "in house" could be the dynamic that holds you back from living in your purpose. ............................... Current events talked about Beyonce Movie The Color Purple-I seen it and I have a small review Jason Lee calling Jennifer EGOT Hudson Illiterate Diddy Take that A... To court has a 4th case. ........................... You can find me on all socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog itself

Have you ever thought about writing? Feeling like you don't know where to start this is your episode. In addition writing is therapeutic. It heals parts of you just from being vulnerable and willing to share your story. Today's guest is Sheila Bender. ........................... Sheila Bender is a poet, essayist, memoirist, and master teacher, who has helped hundreds of people write from personal experience. She believes that when it comes to writing-in-progress, there is no bad writing only opportunities for good writing. She has served as a Distinguished Lecturer in poetry for Seattle University, taught writing at Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles, and for the Centrum Foundation’s Port Townsend, Washington writers conference among many venues. She founded WritingItReal.com, an online instructional magazine focused on writing from personal experience and speaks on writing to heal grief, overcoming writer's block, and writing craft skills for new and experienced writers and poets. Follow Sheila on the following: Website Amazon page Facebook Mastodon Medium .................................................. Did you really show yourself as off as 2 left shoes talking about Beyonce being white? Are you watching the movie that is Beyonce, Renaissance. In addition we took the kids to see the Jayz exhibit which ends on December 4th. ...................................... Follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog.