TOL The Onion Layers

We struggle with this, as there is a difference between hearing and listening, when we recognise the difference we will realise what we can learn no matter others may go through. We are capable of listening to the hardships of people, "we have two ears and one mouth, yet we fail to use them in the proportion given" We actually forget the impact that not listening creates/ develops and speaks. We was taught and shown this as children, yet we recycle the same unto others as there is a means that we can alter this for the benefit of ourselves and all them around us, in every situation, any and every person Social media platforms Instagram Facebook page TikTok (TNT Truth N Testimony)

We have to learn that in a world that accepts situations from one parameter and not to another it becomes tough, worst that we dont see it. The battle starts in the mind, males tend to close off, told to speak more but seldom listen to. I look at all different things that seem to show me constantly like its telling me there is more in me, to surrender no more, not physically but internally. I watched a movie that inspired me anad had to talk about it https://youtu.be/l1I_OukoaJU?si=l1D-RlCQueHhjw2S the quotes in this movie really resinated with me Social media platforms Instagram Facebook page TikTok (TNT Truth N Testimony)

This episode came from a realisation of a place that I need to be in, we can be in, everything that we have there is a inner part of us that needs to come out of us, this keeps speaking to me, showing there has to be more options than where I am, where I have been for far to long time. At no means am I stating this is easy, a lot of backwards and forwards, to and fro, beyond all that the world states, in speech and media narrative, being a male and thte standards make it just as hard but I must fight WE MUST FIGHT. Perspectives shared of: Social media platforms Instagram Facebook page TikTok (TNT Truth N Testimony)

⚠️⚠️-----TRIGGER WARNING-----⚠️⚠️ things spoken in this episode are to do with rape , sexual interaction, racial matters and unfair treatment⚠️⚠️⚠️ This recording has been recorded over and over to make sure I could share without breaking down, Some attempts you wouldn't have even been able to hear me audibly, so I ended up sharing partial detail being conscious of those who have faced rape themselves, some of what I shared can still effect others and I am being conscious of them also, but I will share other perspectives from this episode. Me speaking my ''Truth" is to encourage others to do the same, I am working on so many things to push against shame, regret and self hatred along with others, are all party to trauma I AM A SURVIVOR of rape although there are lots of things that still cause fear, concern and doubt in myself, I am working on the notion that I have choice, simple in saying but its the doing, lots of things I have moved on from like triggers and reminders these I am working on until I overcome. Thank you for listening you are in part by hearing helping me "THERAPISE" myself Social media platforms Instagram Facebook page TikTok (TNT Truth N Testimony)

⚠️⚠️⚠️ -----TRIGGER WARNING-----⚠️⚠️⚠️ In this episode I took it upon myself to revisit the location that changed my life, tough as it was there was such a growth in me, it came from a realisation and revealing only when I got to the location. I have found a creative way in which Icould release this and test this out in this episode) I am still in a process of growth and I have due to the last episode got therapy, specifically TRAUMATOLOGY (specialists in trauma study and resolution), please consider your own therapy, aid yourself in whatever way in which you can grow, shift and develop yourself beyond past what was taken. You are capable, I am working and realising there is more beyond this, that broke me, aimed to ruin me but I am taking a tactical stance. Whether its with a organisation, oor a friend, a listener, I am finding that if I lock out people, I lock out helping myself Social media platforms Instagram Facebook page TikTok (TNT Truth N Testimony)

Welcome to my podcast TOL a.k.a the onion layers, a podcast that reveals truth, perspective and research episode by episode through conversation in a form of a perspective many may not see. A way to therapise myself to release openly through voluntary disclosure layer by layer Feel free to message and comment on social media, instagram and facebook TOLtheonionlayers thank you for listening welcome Social media platforms Instagram Facebook page TikTok (TNT Truth N Testimony)

Apologises listeners, there have been so many conflicting things going on with me that I actually changed the episode but found this especially in this day and age so relevant and so needed, this episode is actually not just sourced at them in trauma, but also those who are the friends, the family the random person also at work. For them to trust and to be trusted. There is always a need for it, but always the basic thing seldom utilised As I am in therapy and doing a course on Self Harm and Suicide Prevention I recommend this a lot and the steps that I am taking although gradual I am grateful for in talking and listening, to and from others Thank you for all those who listen to me on and off this platform For we have ears for listening not just hearing the question do we use the facility fully..........

There are a lot of tools both conventional and unconventional in this episode I continue on the theme of fighting a onion layer many do, some consider and some may find hard difficult too. I mention a few things in this episode a book called " STOP WHO ARE YOU HIDING FROM by Shirley Roberts" (Available on Amazon link below) -I mention a few movies, Shipwrecked, Maleficent, The Little Mermaid, Moana, Bruised starring Halle Berry and Prison break. Common movies which all of us can watch and witness as entertainment but can actually be tools in which you can gain a level of understanding, encouragement, motivation and moral grounding even the directors and creators may not have even intended. Apologies for the delay in this episode since the last I have been using my own words in the last episode and working on a lot of new things, not all has been easy but I can tell you looking ahead to this episode I have been FIGHTING I have thanks to some of the listeners in the very first episode had aid sourcing me and I am now using therapy/ counselling to push at my progression, my hold ups, even my behaviour and thoughts TO FIGHT and in turn I hope while listening to this episode you in-turn will also, and over time make the layer(s) of trauma and discomfort one(s) you can use to FIGHT instead of flee from (Link to the book) https://www.amazon.com/STOP-WHO-ARE-YOU-HIDING-ebook/dp/B08JKQ1C9K/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=2X6K32H62QPDQ&keywords=stop+who+you+are+hiding+from+by+shirley+roberts&qid=1659904392&sprefix=stop+who+you+are+hiding+from+by+shirley+roberts+%2Caps%2C148&sr=8-1

This episode is YELLOW due to the content, it mentions Suicide but not in any teachable detail, this episode does talk breifly on intimate detail, exposing more truth in what Iface and go/ going through. We ALL have to but some may no even realise that they are or having to, WE got to fight, to learn to, build to and decide when its necessary and when its not, this is all surmounting in fighting. Instead of it taking me over I have decided that now I have to start to fight. Silence is no longer a choice I choose , instead of running and/or ignoring the frustration's, traumas and triggers, I am wanting to push at this new side. THE SIDE I NEED TO COME AGAINST ALL I HAVE ALLOWED I HAVE GOT TO!!!!! Enough Is Enough I claim and seize back my life, a issue at a time My endeavour is to reveal perspective and put this episode as a caution

⚠️⚠️⚠️ TRIGGER WARNING⚠️⚠️⚠️ in this episode in a creative source that many don't know I do, I release my first ever recorded spoken word with background sound for empathises. BUT DO NOT DO IT IF NOT SAFE !!!!!!!THERE IS NO SWEARING IN THIS EPISODE, JUST THE CONTENT IN THE SPOKEN WORD CAN CAUSE PEOPLE TO FEEL UPSET/ EMOTIONAL/ DISGUSTED AND MORE PLEASE BE AWARE

⚠️⚠️⚠️ ------TRIGGER WARNING- -----things spoken about are to do with Rape, sexual interaction, racial matters and unfair treatment ⚠️⚠️⚠️ This recording has been recorded over and over to make sure I could share without breaking down, Some attempts you wouldn't have even been able to hear me audibly, so I ended up sharing partial detail being conscious of those who have faced rape themselves, some of what I shared can still effect others and I am being conscious of them also, but I will share other perspectives from this episode. Me speaking my ''Truth" is to encourage others to do the same, I am working on so many things to push against shame, regret and self hatred along with others, are all party to trauma I AM A SURVIVOR of rape although there are lots of things that still cause fear, concern and doubt in myself, I am working on the notion that I have choice, simple in saying but its the doing, lots of things I have moved on from like triggers and reminders these I am working on until I overcome. Thank you for listening you are in part by hearing helping me "THERAPISE" myself

Welcome to my podcast TOL a.k.a The Onion Layers a podcast that reveals truth, perspective and research pisode by episode through conversation in a form of therapy releasing the human host layer by layer Thank you for Joining